Falling in love is like a windy day. Most people loved it—the cool breeze of the wind and colorful kites in the sky, children playing outside, and people like me, the best day to read a book under a tree. An ideal day it is. A windy day may be an ideal day, but not everyone loves it. Some people were reminded of how a windy day caused their important papers to fly in the sky. While some were reminded of how the windy day amplified the fire in their community. Just like windy days, falling in love is not for everyone. But when someone does fall in love, it sure is the best feeling they felt. Furthermore, just as how the weather changes, so does the feeling of falling in love, and like a candle, love sometimes runs out. The wind was too strong, and its wick was never enough to keep the fire burning.

When falling out of love, everything you do from then on will all be a lie. It will always feel like a silent break-up. One of you will start to be cold for the candle has already burnt out. From having small arguments to cold wars and patterns of small fights will be noticeable, and more damage will be done rather than healing. Love becomes more complicated, more draining, and more damaging than it was before. Falling out of love is something we did not choose, it is something we start to feel. Compare to liking someone, we get to choose whom to like and dislike. Falling in love is way much deeper than simply liking someone, and falling out of love is as painful as being numb. It is as painful as losing a part of you that was once expressed confidently. Being numb is the most painful feeling when in a relationship. Regardless of the sweet words, you hear from your lover, you don’t feel anything.  From saying “you are my everything” to “you are not enough.” From yesterday, it was “laughing with you.” Now, it is all “crying because of you.”

Falling out of love is something we cannot foresee, but some therapists say it is preventable. Maybe to some, but then again, not all sayings apply to everyone. To fall in love once more is something that would require effort. It would require intimate and sincere communication from both sides. Most of the time, falling in love is something we deny but let us always remember that to be honest about what you feel is better than a thousand lies. If we want to fall in love again with the same person, we must always remember to be honest at all costs. To prioritize aching truth over sweet lies. To be open to correction and changes. Above all else, to fall in love again would require the both of you to start again. If we allow ourselves once more to fall in love with the same person, I believe it would be as sweet as being in love again as if it’s the first time.